My one thought is maybe don't bring up the OM- even if she asks for reasons. Whether there is someone else in the picture or not doesn't even seem to be the point. If he is not in the picture but she still isn't putting any effort in, would it change things from your perspective? I'm guessing no. Not communicating with the OM would be her working on the relationship, so maybe just keep it at the fact that you don't feel as though she is working on the relationship. I think if you bring up OM she will shut down and only hear that- control.
You're absolutely right. Her not communicating with him at all, but doing everything else the same as she is now, would not change things. I'll do my best not to bring it up. I know he's a symptom of the problem.
Thanks for the support. I'll be sure to update as soon as I can. Starting to get a bit nervous now... but I haven't once wavered that this is the right decision for ME. I'm back to ME, and not US. US is now dead.
M:28 | W:28 | T:4.5 | M:2.5 | No Children EA1 Uncovered: Jun 2011 EA2 Uncovered: 2011-09-29 S: 2011-09-29 I'm moving on: 2012-05-08 My story: http://bit.ly/K3ttPM
