Ben, best of luck to you tonight. You have worked really hard on GAL- and on improving yourself and you deserve someone who wants to work hard with you on your relationship. Keep that in mind during your talk. I'll be looking forward to checking how it went tomorrow.
My one thought is maybe don't bring up the OM- even if she asks for reasons. Whether there is someone else in the picture or not doesn't even seem to be the point. If he is not in the picture but she still isn't putting any effort in, would it change things from your perspective? I'm guessing no. Not communicating with the OM would be her working on the relationship, so maybe just keep it at the fact that you don't feel as though she is working on the relationship. I think if you bring up OM she will shut down and only hear that- control.
Me-32 H-31 M-1yr, 9mos/T-6.5yrs No kids, 3 pets H estranged father passes away- 8/11 Bomb- 1/15/12 Began LRT- 4/1/12
