Glad you found Nickel's threads helpful. I kinda thought you would. You don't owe me anything... she's a terrific person and I can't imagine her not being in my life. If she were still posting, she'd be glad she could help you.
Quote:
I kept thinking and analysing (my downfall) if I go dark will it give me the outcome I want? if I work on the friendship will it give me the outcome I want? All of that is manipulation. I can't predict or influence an outcome at least I can't influence if I'm trying to influence.
This was what I was hoping you'd get. This is YOUR sitch, and you are unique here. Your list is right on, so keep that as your bible of sorts. Good luck!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey