I got a txt like that from my W once early after the bomb. She meant to send to a friend of hers about telling my family what was going on but sent it to me instead.
I responded letting her know I could tell it was for someone else but agreed with what she said. It actually prompted a conversation that was helpful at the time.
If I had to guess, I'd say you're right about what happened. He's having to deal with stuff internally and if patterns stay consistent in the WAS, its easier to turn that on the spouse than deal with it themselves. Good job owning it.
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms