We've had a few irritable conversations since the talk on Thursday but even on those I could see my W opening trying to manage her irritation and look at things more objectively. I'm not running away from conversations and am asking more questions to understand.
Last night I couldn't sleep and knew my W was still awake so I just went and asked her a question. She had said before the conversation that she wanted to try and focus more on positive interactions. I asked if she was still interested in doing that or if our conversation had caused her to rethink that. She confirmed that is still what she wants to do, so another positive.
I did realize that even if W decides to go back to counseling it will most likely not happen until August. The family leaves in about a month which will be difficult to get into an appointment and only 1 seems a bit pointless. Then they are gone for over a month. Then W will probably want to wait until the kids are back in school so it is easier for her to get away for appointments during the day.
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms