I spent my IC appt yesterday discussing expectations, resentment, acceptance. The UNholy Trinity maybe.
Are you punishing H for what he did?
How did that make you feel when it was done to you? Did it make you a better person?
Can you accept him as he is and move on from today, letting that stuff go so you might both have a chance at happiness? Resentment will kill a marriage so if you can't you should get out, for the sake of both of you.
Can you have some clear, loving boundaries with him? Protect your heart that way.
Boundaries are going to make it possible for you to have a healthy R either with H or with someone else.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
