Best advice often given on this board.. keep your mouth shut.
Should you decide to move to SC with her as to not tear your son away from his mom....
... could you do it without expecations?
Could you do it knowing that it may NOT lead to reconciling with your w?
Could you do it knowing that she may never see the gift and sacrifice you made for both her and your son?
Could you do it without building resentment in your heart?
Dig deep for the answer my friend... but know that it is a choice that you will have to make many times.
When I wanted to move to LA.. my w did a great job of supporting me. First thing she threw in my face at our first mediation was the move.
I do not fault her for having those feelings (I'm almost 4 years in and FINALLY getting financially stable 'in her eyes') but I do hold her accountable for allowing those feelings of resentment to grow.
There is no doubt in my mind that if you moved that you too would have moments of resentment....
The question is... could you squash them? or would you allow them to fester?
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
