Hello, WAW. Is anyone there?

[hangten]

It sounds like you want to win. Fighting is the wrong choice of words. Your posts sound punitive. You need to control your words and actions. Close your mouth. Let your w do the talking. Talking is not going to get you out of this. When she is ready she will talk. Only thing that you can control is yourself. Keep yourself busy. Don't use your kids as a bargaining chip. The kids want to see both of you.

Believe nothing what she says and half of what she does.
Practice patience. Time is needed to heal the hurt. It has taken a bout a year for my w to talk with me without a hint of anger in her voice. Keep the road paved smooth and don't scare the rabbit away. Your w needs to believe the changes.