dueinMay all of this is about self-reflection. every single last piece.
because that is all you will ever have control over.
you can manipulate your H. but you cant control him. you can judge, punish, coax, hate, beat, etc. but you'll usually end up frustrated.
you do have complete control over yourself, your emotions, perspective, etc.
its your choice to highlight his negatives, and ignore his positives. but that will just make you miserable.
likewise you can just as easily choose to see the positives, focus on the progress he's made, the work that he does put in, his fathering. but that will only make you happy.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
