yes, that will be the key. I asked her yesterday what she's going to do with her first 5:00pm evening. She said "I'm going to take my dinner downstairs, so they can't ask me to do other things, then I'm gonna lie down for a bit and then iron" I asked what she was going to iron "Well, the bedsheets need to be done and the boys school uniforms" We had a talk about how she's going to have to learn to leave things undone! I said "you are your number one priority right now, not bedsheets or school uniforms. The focus here is to re-energize so that you're ready to find work or go to school. You have to stick to your perimeters here" She said I was right and her girlfriend had told her the same thing that afternoon. I told her that I know it's hard for her to leave things undone but sheets do not need to be ironed and the boys can wear the same uniforms for another day, if necessary. So today she texted me a good morning and that today she starts working till 5:00pm. She was going to ask her employer if today was the start date. I said "you just tell her "btw, I'm starting 7-5 today, don't ask" So, I texted "Hooray, first day of freedom. No ironing after hours either, right?" She replied "hehehe...lots of stuff to iron so that won't be starting today!" She just can't stop herself...small steps, small steps lol. But, at least she'll be ironing a few hours earlier in the evening rather than 10:00pm! It's a work in progress.
