Yes I'm going through almost the same experience. My W and I just had our 9th anniversary yesterday...it was terrible because she is moving to an apartment at the end of this week...we spent the evening working on our joint custody agreement. I know a lot of men on this site have had very similar experiences. Why WAWs choose "special" times to cut us out of there lives is a mystery...may be to delete all good feelings for us? Don't know. The DR is an excellent book (better then DB in my opinion)...I'm following the last resort technique - stay positive and pleasant, do not pursue/plead/beg in any way, if she plans on separating help her pack and move, be her friend not her husband/lover anymore (have faith that this will return but for now it is dormant if not dead and you need to wrap your mind around this), write up a joint custody agreement if that's what she wants, don't let yourself get angry with your W (find a place to vent/cry AWAY from W), and most importantly GAL find peace and love for yourself and self respect...because even if your marriage is over (worst case scenario here) your ego will be intact and this will positively influence your life but more importantly how you parent your child. Your son is the real victim here...be positive, caring, loving for him. Stay out of conflict with your W and work on the best parenting environment you can...this will really minimize deleterious effects on your son IF you get divorced.
