Saving my marriage even she file for a divorce

[MrBond]

"The child is fated to be this way."

No he is not. You haven't even done any changing so it's YOU that is making his fate. You haven't taken any responsibility for what you have done. You are the one saying that you will abandon him. Not your wife. You keep saying that to yourself. So stop blaming your wife.

She didn't tell you to stay out of his life. You are saying that. And that makes you responsible.

"His mum don't want to give him a family and I am being blame for?"

Yes because you don't even understand what a family is. A family starts when a man and woman care for each other that they would do things to make the other one happy. You didn't do that. You didn't make your wife happy. So she left you. Simple as that.

You can't expect her to automatically go running back to you because you said you changed. She has no proof that you've changed. This takes time. A long time to correct the mistakes you made. It doesn't happen overnight.

But the biggest thing is your attitude. If you don't change that, you will lose everything. If your son fails it is because YOU, his father, didn't show him how to do the right thing because you threw him away like garbage. YOU not your wife.