WH it sounds like he is enjoying the feeling of freedom from responsibility of helping you with the household. It is good that you took the time you needed to compose yourself when you got home. Maybe you could take your kids out for a fun day without him?
I'm still a novice at the DB'ing but it also sounds like you are still holding on to certain expectations which triggers a lot of emotional response when he does anything. Remember to take care of yourself, especially right now if you are feeling low. What can YOU do for YOU?
