Wow, it's been 2 months since I last posted on here. Time really does fly! So, I guess I'm back cos I need some support and advice about what to do next.
The situation is that me and W are getting on better than we were in the past and she talks about 'us' in the future rather than 'her' although she till talks to me like dirt most of the time and I can't do anything right, I'm still living seperetly which is what we both still want at the moment. I'm absolutely certain now that this is her having a MLC and isn't WAW wife syndrome, I could write a book on why I think that is the case!
But we/I'm kind of stuck, I dont get angry anymore, we've stopped talking on Sunday evening as that wasnt getting us anywhere and just kept opening up old wounds but because shes been ill I've been round there a lot more and (as she says) she can bear to be around me more now. I just privately get frustrated at times that things are going so slowly and I am getting very very lonely.I think what hasn't helped is although I had got quite detached, I got sucked back in quite a bit while she was ill (gallbladder problems) and it felt like the situation was getting better but I applied a little pressure yesterday and didn't get anywhere and managed to annoy her a bit - mind you everything I do seems to annoy her!
It really feels like shes pushing me away but also keeping me close all the time.
So any suggestions as to what to do next? I still haven't mastered the art of patience although I am getting better at it. I realised that now shes getting better from her gallbladder problem I need to detach more again and GAL again, but any other suggestions will be greatfully received.
DBing isn't really working in this situation as shes so caught up in mental confusion/depression that it doesn't really help but I am very strictly following the mantra " Is what I'm about to do going to help or hinder my marriage" and that has helped me push through some tense and tough times as well as go that extra mile at other times.
