Folks: I have been absent for quite a while as I attempt to GAL and focus on moving my life forward. Thought I would provide an update and ask a bit of advise.
Signed the formal separation papers in late January, and have not seen my STBXW since October. She was very incommunicado for months, and I have not attempted to push her. She stayed with an old boyfriend for several weeks after the court date, but then moved back to her home in another state a couple of months ago. She contacted me in April for some advise on a job interview, and we chatted for quite a while. She got the job, a temporary gig for a number of months late in the year. She really needed the confidence boost that scoring the job provided, so it was good for her psyche. She is still walking the fine line above depression,and fears falling back in. Since that time we have texted and emailed a number of times, and she seems glad to hear from me. I have been very circumspect, as I do not want to push her in any way.
She told me she needed to return to my town to go to some appointments later this month. She asked if she could stay with me, as I am the 'best friend she has back here'. She then sent me her itinerary, and she is planning on being here for 10 days! That was quite a surprse. To the best of my knowledge, she has not told anyone that she is coming for a visit.
Not really sure how to handle this, and I am doing my best to not read anything into it. It all seems very strange. I am going to go about my life, and if she wants to spend some time with me, that would be great. I do know she wants to go see my mother while she is here.
Why does this seem so strange?
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
