"The alcoholic's hidden guilt and unhappiness may reveal themselves in torrents of explosive temper and accusations, to which the spouse impulsively reacts by feeling hurt, until she learns in Al-Anon that it is futile to take these outbursts seriously. She thinks he really means what he is saying, which compels her to defend herself against his unjust attacks by fighting back. She doesn't realize that his rage is really at himself and that he must vent it on the nearest person. He knows from experience that he will get the reaction he wants, which helps ease his guilt feelings." from The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage.
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Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
