My wife is leaving me..

[labug]

You don't need a lot of boundaries but the boundaries you do make need to be strong and enforced.

Are there boundaries about her drinking around the kids?

i didnt know what to do so i prayed last night. spent about 2 hrs praying and crying. i still feel miserable.

Did you call your sponsor? This is a dangerous place for you as your old coping mechanism is gone but easily attainable.

Detachment is hard but you haven't been at this very long, don't give up.

i havent heard from my W all weekend. makes me worry, wondering if shes ok. than i think, she pobably is fine. fine without me, and that hurts

Mind-reading, again. When you notice that you're doing this have a little talk with yourself. "I'm powerless over people, places and things." I have a sign with that on it by my BR mirror so I look at it everyday. It does you no good to dwell there because that's not your work, that's God's work.

And yes, it does hurt but this hurt won't kill you. Learning to deal with the hurts in life, will only make you stronger.

And you can pass that skill on to your children. They will then have the strength to deal with painful things without turning to a substance, because they will have what they need right inside themselves.

How powerful is that?