Betsey- you were right about him trying to get out of "the talk".
I'm sorry about that. I didn't want to be "right". It's just that I was married to his brother for 15 years. And I met a few really good friends here along the way who were also married to P/A men. It's how they operate. And frankly, it's really tiring.
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I simply stated that because it was his decision he needs to do the talking.
Absolutely. And I'm glad you stuck to your guns on this.
Here's my ugly secret. When my XH filed the divorce petition, he listed ME as the petitioner. How's that for a true P/A action? I feel like I graduated magna cum laude from the P/A survivor school. Kind of funny that they married overly controlling women. The book I'm reading now explains how this works. I'm finding it interesting all over again.
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He is off setting up his new place and I am dealing with the fallout. Trying to remember to stay positive around them,
Ugh, this was what I was trying to say earlier. I still have fallout, and we have completely closed that chapter. It's like herpes... the gift that keeps giving. I wish I could muster up a laugh, but I can't.
But in the end, the only way to heal and move forward IS to stay positive. You have to be positive that you and the kids are going to be fine, no matter what. That inner strength is something you're going to need, no matter what outcome prevails. Because if you think that this is hard, there are folks here who have reconciled and that is also darned difficult.
Off to bed. Hope Sunday goes a little better for you.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey
