Any chance to make it work? I need advice

[sweetbabyred]

--journal
No contact is so difficult for me. I sent H one text today to thank him for letting me get another phone on the family plan. I'd been telling him that I was going to keep my somewhat working phone until August, when the contract was up and then I'd go to a prepaid plan since my plan would be too expensive for me as an individual. He'd been telling me to just get a new phone and stay on the plan, as it's only two years. But so much has happened in just the last year that I didn't want to risk it.

Anyway, my phone broke completely last Friday and he asked me again to just renew the contract. I was stressed and I know I'm stubborn, so I was probably difficult with him while choosing a phone. I sent a quick text thanking him for keeping me on the plan and letting him know that I did appreciate it, even if it didn't seem like it. I also admitted to being hard headed. Two hours later I got a response, and I waited three hours to send another. I usually responded within minutes, so that was a first for me. And in the last month or so, he'd tell me that I was the only one who'd respond to him right away, because none of his friends would. So I'm not sure if the late response is a good thing or not. Could that make him think I don't care as much about him? Or could that be good? Why does everything have to be so difficult.

I know that his primary love languages are words of affirmation and gifts. Mine are acts of service and quality time. I scored almost nothing on his two, so it was very difficult for me to love him in a way he could appreciate. He's been working out more recently and I can tell he's lost some weight. Would it be bad for me to mention how good he's looking? I know that he's with the OW because she probably tells him what he wants to hear. When I notice that he's doing something good, should I mention it because of his love language or just stay quiet for now?

I was thinking back of everything that happened before we separated. His son's stepfather joined the army three months before so we knew we had a chance of not seeing him for awhile. I took a month long trip to India before starting school, which I never would have done had I not been completely confident in our relationship, but wasn't able to call/email as much as I wanted while I was there. And his work contract, which I didn't think was up until April, ended up ending halfway through my trip. So he was lonely without me, had no work to keep his mind off things, and didn't feel useful without a job.

Our C, who we saw 3 or 4 times, asked him if he just got so upset at the idea of losing me during that time, that he decided to leave first so he wouldn't have to go through that again. He didn't reply, but I think that's a good possibility. He told me before that he always thought I'd leave him because I was so much better. So he's depressed and possibly in a MLC. I'm trying to do a 180, but I'm not really sure what to do and don't want to abandon him if he really needs help. Even though he doesn't want me as his wife right now, I'd hate to abandon him if he really needs someone to be there. If (and when) things ends with the OW, I know he'll be really upset and I don't want him to feel that he has no one he can talk to. I just don't know what to do.