I'm assuming your w told you this right? Did she give any of her own feedback or just reiterate what her T said? The T seems to want to make some drastic changes but shouldn't that decision be made by her. Maybe it is and she is using her T as a front?
Anyhow, I think going back to the basics is good for you right now. Be aware if you are pursuing or smothering her and try to limit that as much as you can. I suggest letting your w lead and mirror her as far as the extent of the communication is concerned.
My w & I are still pretty friendly and we see each other almost every day even though she moved out 8+ months ago so I have an idea of what your going through.
Try to not worry about if your w notices your changes or doesn't think they will last. Your making those changes for you right?
It is a good sign that she notices them but only more time will prove to her that those changes are for real.
