I was feeling good this morning, went and got my hair done, went for bangs to change it up a bit. The kids and I took my brother to lunch for his birthday. My C told me a good time to talk to kids was in the car because they aren't looking at you. So on the way home I asked my son how he was feeling about Daddy having a new house. He said "Sad. You promised that you and Daddy would never live apart." His best friends parents separated about 5 months ago and when I explained what was going on I promised that "Daddy and I would never do that" because that is how I truly felt. I know I can't take what I said back, but I am upset that he is hurting. Then he said "Is he still your husband?" I guess it puts something silly like wearing a ring in perspective, but in that minute I decided to still wear it around the kids. Tonight when I am out- it's coming off.
Betsey- you were right about him trying to get out of "the talk".
Quote:
Awesome. I think that the emotions that come with dreading something are darned exhausting. And I'm glad your kids were able to weather through the news and that you didn't have to do this by yourself.
He did try to get me to do the talking, before he left for work he implied I should do it. I resisted the urge to use profanity and call him on his passiveness. I simply stated that because it was his decision he needs to do the talking.
Quote:
LOL, would it help you knowing that there are days (9 years later) where I feel like saying this? Because 9 years later, there are still consequences and fall out in my house, and every once in awhile it pi$$es me off that I get stuck with helping my D18 navigate them. You're the grocery mom (not fun) and he gets to be Disney dad. I know... it isn't fair... but little in life really is.
No, it doesn't help. That's the problem. If it was me, no kids I wouldn't even be on these boards. If you can't help yourself I can't help you. But his is their father. WTF. I had no idea he had this in him.
I think it will get better, just an emotionally loaded day with the kids. He is off setting up his new place and I am dealing with the fallout. Trying to remember to stay positive around them, glad I have this board for venting!
M 37, H 37 M 10, T 12 S 4 D 2 3/14/12 ILYBNILWY 4/2/12 H consults a L, files nothing 4/26/12 H moves to his new place
