the serenity prayer is something i say about 10 times a day..lol.. accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can, and the wisdom to know the difference. my W, myself, my M.
in regards to the kids. i tell them in no uncertain terms it is not their fault. they have done nothing wrong. it is between mom and dad. i also encourage S9 to talk to me about anything. he has a little. he is scared. i told him it is ok to be scared. im scared too. no matter what i will be here for him. i tell my kids i love them a couple times a day.
does giving up actually work. so far i havent reached any of my goals. maybe cuz i didnt detach soon enough or in the right way. maybe my goals arent small enough. there has been no improvement in my M that is for sure. i wrote the list for my W the way you suggested. havent given it to her. kinda want to wait till she does mine. i dont know.
