That is one of his complaints about me...that he doesn't want to work on things with me because he 'knows' I will not be able to get over things.


Was this before or after the affairs?

You have a lot to "get over"-married 5 years and he's had 2 As. Can you get over the affairs, really forgive him?

I think you're right to not contact him. It will give you a chance to figure out what you want.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss