golf mom, The comments "your crazy" and "your lying" is total projection and to throw you off so that your focus in now on defending yourself and not questioning him.
BTW, do not believe anything he tells you and only 50% of what he does. He's dating someone and he's not going to tell you whether it's serious or not. Lying becomes a natural part of their life, i.e., just like breathing. In his mind, you are not his mother, therefore, he doesn't have to tell you anything. He is going to tell you what he thinks you want to here to "protect you" from any hurt associated w/what he's doing. It's bs.
Please, please stop trying to have discussions about your relationship and reconciling...you are putting additional pressure on him and he's going to run fast and hard from you. If you have any chance of getting him back, you have to leave him alone and no discussions about your relationship! What you hear from him will break your heart each and every time. You don't need that right now.
Please pick up a copy of Solo Partner and read it. I recommended this book to many back in 2000-2002 on the thread called Highly Recommended Reading Materials. It is an excellent book. Wendy has also recommended to you as well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
