Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Thanks V. I too like the pun of my new thread. Puts a positive spin on the story.
A lot of feelings are coming up today but I am taking it easy on myself and being super gentle.
One thing that gets me is maybe he just doesnt love me. He will never love me, so what am I doing. "I cant make your heart feel something it wont"
I see how he responds to me. Everything I do is wrong. Everything I do is another reason to him that he is doing the right thing. He cant stand me and even though all reasonable signs tell him to reconcile, the good of his children, finances, everything. He cant stand me. It really hurts.
I survive by believing he has lost his mind but what if he just lost all his love. What if he is completely sane??
Sorry to whine and be desperate but I had to vent. It was building up today
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
I wonder the exact same thing...maybe it is just that he does not love me anymore. How that could happen? I am not too sure at all!!! Because it was just 6 months ago that we seemed (well I was) so in love and happy with our life and people saw it, too!
M: 27 H: 28 T: 8 yrs M: 6 yrs Sep: 2/18/12 (I have no feelings for you!) EA/PA Uncovered: 2/26/12 H introduces OW to his fam: June H moves ALL stuff out: July
I feel like this too sometimes - it must be 'normal' under our circumstances.
But really, it's much more likely that our H's don't love themselves at the moment. It comes out as shunning us, but that's because they're having such a struggle within themselves.
And, we know they are not rational.
Don't let yourself believe that how he feels now is how he's going to be forever. You know that's not likely.
