Today has been actually good, even though it was stressful for a moment. My husband and I met up to go to our daughter's school for a party they were having.
Before that, we did our bill talk we do every 2 weeks so that we are on the same page about our joint account and how the money is flowing, etc. It went well. I had actually sat down and worked up a budget a few days ago for me and the kids in case of divorce. Kind of a snapshot of what I wanted the finances to be if I had to take care of them on my own. It was depressing to do, but I had kept wondering with as much as he was throwing the D words around, so it was for me to get a better grasp on finances for myself to know what I was looking at if he never changes his mind and we start getting into legal stuff. Anyway, I was talking with him about it, and finishing my school, etc., and he let it drop that he had went to talk to a lawyer just to find out more about everything, because he had heard what I had told him, but wanted to have things verified.
At this point my heart dropped to my toes and I felt like I was going to throw up. I held it together though and kept calm. I asked what he had found out.
He basically said the lawyer verified what I had told him. In our state, since the separation wasn't wanted by me, I had 2 years from the move out date before he could file for divorce. YES!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so happy!!! That just bought me a ton of time to Divorce Bust, and just not worry about him serving me papers.
He confirmed some other stuff that I had told him also, nothing major like that date stuff.
I asked what he thought about it all and he just said he was glad he went so that he knew what to expect now and had actual confirmation on stuff. That he wasn't planning on filing anything right now anyway, and that he was happy with how the last week had been between us with how we are getting along and stuff, so he just wanted to keep working on us getting along and get ready for the baby and continue just living and doing what we have. It was actually a relief to hear all of this. I know I have until February 2014 now until he can make this legal. I can only imagine the rollercoaster we will ride until that date, but at least I have the relief of knowing I have time. And I can have this baby with no papers being served right afterwards.
M 36 H 36 D9,S6, Expecting D in August 2012 M 13 T 18 Told me he wanted to separate 12/31/2011 Moved Out 2/2/2012 Didn't want to work on things, wanted divorce 4/20/2012
