Wow! Thanks for all the responses. I too have a really hard time being consistent with the advice from the books and on the forum. It is all really counterintuitive!
I am coming to terms with the fact that she is leaving. I am not bringing up the depression or other potential mental illnesses anymore...It DOES just piss her off!
I am mainly concerned with how this is going to affect the kids. They really don't know this is coming. It breaks my heart to know the news we have to reveal to them this weekend.
I am amazed that a mother is willing to walk out on her kids. I have stated before that she and I are very close. We ARE great friends and we both say we love each other. She just thinks she needs to "go find herself" whatever that means.
Anyway, she moves out on the weekend of 18 May. I am preparing the best I can and have asked her to review a separation agreement and sign it with me. I feel that it will bring some structure and hopefully some future protection if she ultimately decides to D.
I need to start backing way off in the affection that I show her. I am somewhat confused about how much support to give her so as not to come across as if I agree or support what she is doing, but I feel that if I am nice and help her where I can it will help allow her to come back more easily if she chooses to.
H 36, W 35, M 15 S 11 D 7 Bomb 08/03/2011 2nd Bomb 01/04/2012 3rd Bomb 04/26/2012 Divorced 07/23/2012
