OMG Ladies - Put them in a bag and shake them up, open the bag and pick one out. It doesn't matter which one you get, they're all the same!
Wendy, my H was flipping mad when I retained my own L instead of going along with his plan of using one L, his...
When I told him what my L said would be my financial allotment, he actually wrote me an email and financially broke it down as to how much I would get of his paycheck and how much he would be left with. He spewed like crazy and told me it was blood money, even going as far as typing the email in red. lol He said he wouldn't be able to live, blah, blah, blah. But not for one minute did he consider how little he was willing to give me and how I was supposed to live on that. That was why I retained my own L. H really was trying to put the screws to me.
He told me to go out and find a job like most people have to do. Well, I have a job and have worked the majority of our M. Instead of having a career I took jobs that let me work around caring for the home and children. He was the major breadwinner.
He also didn't stop to think about how scarce jobs are and I would have to work two of them. He could have cared less that would have left our D13 alone the majority of the time.
These things are the consequences of divorce. I told him that they were his choices, not mine. Deal with them.
Well, he's dealing with it like he dealt with most things. Bury your head in the sand and hope it goes away. He hasn't made a legal move since he filed and I counter filed well over a year ago. He really doesn't want to let go of the money.
This really does get easier, so hang in there, you're doing fine.
