WAW in the making, What can I do to prevent it?

[2thepoint]

E-Chic - You've certainly come to the right place. Welcome!


Adinva's advice about Retrouvaille is worthy of consideration. People that have attended have good things to say about it. Look it up on Google. The "5 Love Languages" is a great book and another you should take a look at is "How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking about it."

From my perspective, and your question has been asked before, If my W had sat me down at a time where there could be no distractions and told me very specifically that we were "this close" to destroying our M and that we had to take action or it would end in D, I would have listened.

Unfortunately what happens more often than not, is the WAS just walks away and the LBS is stunned! Stunned and shocked and then they take action, often too late.

My W dropped the bomb, refused to go to MC and I've been playing catch up ever since. Because of this forum, the books I've read and the IC that I've been participating in, I've at least been able to slow things way down. We are not D and we get along better than ever but we are separated and not living as a husband/wife should live.

Like you, I crave touch. I need to feel attractive and loved. It is something my W for whatever reason is not comfortable with. It is probably not something she was raised with and so for her to change in this area would be a big adjustment for her.

Anyway, there are tons of folks here who will be happy to share their experiences with you and if you poke around you are bound to find threads that speak to you. Sandi2 is a good person to connect with. She was a former WAS who has very good insight into what you are feeling. Perhaps she will chime in. In the meantime I'm going to try to find a quote from her that so spoke to me that may be helpful to you as well. I'll be back by later or tomorrow.

Hang in there!