Yeah, A. Honestly, I don't know if I'm a good person to give dating advice, since my last "date" didn't end up to well and I found myself on these boards... lol...
I get that it seems like a game and I guess in a way, it all IS a game... they call life... so many people posturing, or passively manipulating, or who knows... how does a person really weed through all that?
I've tried to do my best through life to not be part of that, but I guess it's just human nature.
I think if we put a DB spin on this, then do what works and stop doing what isn't.
What kind of guy are you looking for. DO check your bars aren't set higher than you are prepared to "do without". Before I met my stbX my bar was set to "must not have kids from prior". I am happy that I let that bar down, as I now have two beautiful and awesome kids in my life.
I have very clear bars and they include no alcohol or drug abuse (or risk of said).
The ladies I posted about above, two I met in two separate insurance companies (working the counters), two I met at a "spiritual" retreat.
My stbx? I met her at work, but became "involved" with her after having gone out socially with friends for a few drinks and I'd submit alcohol played a part of "opening up to" the idea of getting into a R with her. She wasn't someone I was initially interested in.
I go to coffee shops, I go to book stores... I try to strike up random conversations with people at stores, restaurants, etc...
One day... that might lead to something... but further investigation will be necessary... and I know I'll have to check myself to stay within my personal mores, yet still be open to forming friendships with people as I do some "weeding"...
But I do spend a lot of time with myself, enjoying myself... driving, hiking, whatever... so I'm not really "out there" to begin with. I want some friends... just friends... new friends and old... to break the monotony... and who knows...?
