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[ces67]

HeyBM, while I am not a WAS I would say that I have blown up once or twice since the bomb. Here's what happened for me.

I let things build up. I was never confident to share my feelings or needs with my W. her actions to draw me in came across as judgement and criticism and it fed my own belief that I was not good enough.

When I did express my concerns or hurt, I felt it was discarded because my W was not feeling her needs met either. Vicious cycle. One specific time was after confronting my W about her relationship with OM, she cast my concerns aside saying nothing happened and then attacked me as selfish and controlling.

I lost it and started yelling at her to stop talking. I am not a yeller. I was just so tired of being put down and I had to fight for myself and that was the only way I knew how at the time.

Not sure if that helps or not.

The talk went ok. Stuff got out that needed to. We stayed up past midnight. Gotta run to an event with my son so more on that later. Good news is W and I a both having lunch him today,