Letting people live their lives and GALing...

[AntoniaB]

I get that KD, I really do. The guy I am seeing now, I met by chance, as a friend of a friend. But the same thing happens, he's in this weird "not sure if I want a girlfriend but if I do want one, it's going to be you" land.

I wasn't looking for him, he just happened, but he didn't happen "entirely."

So I am left with ok, date others??? Wait till he gets his head together? Date no one?

But this whole idea of "I wasn't looking when it happened." That TOO smacks of some sort of game to me. Like if we can just get ourselves to that point, it "happens."

When I look at other people, I just don't see all these things going on in their periphery. It seems like the majority of people are hooked up long-term. And none of these machinations ever crossed their minds, let alone "the work" that so many of us do over the months or years, the work that makes us "better" by far to negotiate the inns and outs of a committed relationship. Nope. I talk to women and they are shrill and demanding and codependent as s*it. Not me, though. I never go codependent on a text or email or in person. Because I have a filter that says "stop."

And in the end, I AM THE ONE ALONE.

Yes, I act in accordance with who my true self is. I act like a person who really cares for the other person. My friends are calling me "the zen master of dating/texting." But I am alone. No one gets how chill I am, lol.

It's a lonely spot to be all DBing people ;-)