Letting people live their lives and GALing...

[AntoniaB]

Kaffe, I do get what you're saying, I do.

But what bugs me is this idea that you relate at the end...the "if you trigger in any way, even small...it is likely to show up...."

This goes back to putting a relationship's success or failure ON THE WOMAN. It basically says that women have this course to go through during which they cannot do this or that but must do this thing and that thing, and IF THEY HIT EVERY MARK, they will get the guy.

I call BS.

I want to know what guy has to be THAT freaking perfect.

I think that the pressure on women is incredible. Just over the top. And you know, I don't even have kids. I think of all those who do, it must be so much harder for them.

This is where I don't get it. I see people ALL around me paired up who seem to have arrived at this point so easily. Who are fighting and being not even near perfect couples, but long-term couples nonetheless. And I think jesus, I can't even get a date??What did they do that I didn't???

I'm at a loss. Some of them, I know, dated people who were married or in committed rel. which I won't do. But still.