"Yes I would still want her to be back but my mind and heart don't speak the same langauage and it keep messing things up."
That's why you have to learn to be calm. What nationality are you if I may ask?
In terms of the physical changes, they don't need to include money. You can get a new haircut (you get one every month anyway right?). You can work out at a park, go running, do pushups, do things that make you healthy and stronger.
You need to get stronger in body and mind.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.