I dont feel good at all about this but I do feel better then I expected I would feel. I feel good about myself. That I am doing all I can to try to rescue our family but I am not stopping him.
H received the latest letter my H/lawyer sent his L. He didnt like it. I have insisted that we have a weekly schedule. H thinks because we both do freelance work the schedule should be negotiated on a job to job basis. We have been operating with a schedule for 1 month now and I like it better. It gives us a starting point to negotiate and we can be flexiable if necessary.
H called me to respond to the letter and let me know that I would be served today. At the end I said I think its a little manipulative that you would call me to talk about this since you know I would do anything for you. I was crying.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
At the end of the day it really is just a piece of paper. I am mentally preparing for the same so my heart goes out to you, as wishing, hoping says you know the community is here for you.
Keep your chin up!
me 38 W 30 T 3 M in 05/2010 Separated 08/2011 Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8 I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5 Anxiously waiting on the judge!
I dont feel good at all about this but I do feel better then I expected I would feel. I feel good about myself. That I am doing all I can to try to rescue our family but I am not stopping him.
H received the latest letter my H/lawyer sent his L. He didnt like it. I have insisted that we have a weekly schedule. H thinks because we both do freelance work the schedule should be negotiated on a job to job basis. We have been operating with a schedule for 1 month now and I like it better. It gives us a starting point to negotiate and we can be flexiable if necessary.
H called me to respond to the letter and let me know that I would be served today. At the end I said I think its a little manipulative that you would call me to talk about this since you know I would do anything for you. I was crying.
Although you knew this day was coming, it obviously hurt. I'm sorry things are unfolding like they are. But you know, you've been preparing for this day and working on your detachment and in the end, you will come out so much stronger than you could ever have imagined.
It is really good to see you standing your ground and setting/enforcing your boundaries. It is obviously helping you cope, even though the pain is so strong.
Try to muscle through this period. Before you know it, you'll have passed through to the other side where the sun shines bright and warms your shoulders and soothes your soul.
(((BK)))
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
(((BK))) I am so sorry. I'm proud of you for sticking to the things you want (i.e., the schedule). Keep your head up. You are being the best mom you can be. Be proud of that! We're all here for you!
((((BK)))) My heart sank when I read your post. You are setting boundaries and I think that is very important, married or not. We are here for you. Remember how strong you are and how far you have come. Show your daughters how to handle life's difficult situations with integrity and class. Do some yoga, meditate, light some candles, call a friend over for a glass of wine. Take care of yourself. Sned positive energy and strength your way. (((BK)))
M 37, H 37 M 10, T 12 S 4 D 2 3/14/12 ILYBNILWY 4/2/12 H consults a L, files nothing 4/26/12 H moves to his new place
Brklyn Babe...been off the boards for a while and i feel like such an a$$ for not keeping up with you. I just heard about you getting served and I feel horrible knowing that it came to this, however I also see how strong, resiliant and loving you are.
I feel like you're in a good place, heart and mind reconciled with this even if it suxx to death.
(((Bklyn))) I know you are hurting. You will have days that you are ok and days that you can't believe this is happening. I go through that regularly. Keep the faith
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Brklyn Babe...been off the boards for a while and i feel like such an a$$ for not keeping up with you. I just heard about you getting served and I feel horrible knowing that it came to this, however I also see how strong, resiliant and loving you are.
I feel like you're in a good place, heart and mind reconciled with this even if it suxx to death.
Need to catch up with you!
Hugs
I feel the same way as Rick ^^^ Brooklyn Babe. I haven't been on here quite as much. I just received seperation agreement papers form my w's L and it f'ing s*ucked. I'm really sorry.
We are better people and parents for what we've been through and what we have stood for.
