I found a book and dowloaded on my kindle last night. The author is David Richo, and the title is When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds That Sabotage Our Relationships. I got to chapter 4 last night, and it's about transferance. Basically, inviting others to play certain roles from our childhood that are not finished on our stage without disclosing these hidden contracts. It's pretty interesting. Apparently, he has exercises later on in the book, so I'll see what I have to do down the road. I'm sure my stage will be littered with surprised and bad actors...
Thanks for weighing in, Ellie. Oddly enough, being back here is helping.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey