Good idea on the C today. Hopefully, you have some concrete stuff to report?
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He let himself into the house this am because he wanted to be here when the kids woke up. Seems like he is reaching out. Seems "nice".
Was that "nice" sarcastic or genuine? Sorry, I don't want to assume.. written word is often hard to detect, particularly when you don't know someone personally.
If it was genuine, do you think moving out on you on the kids is nice? (And no, that is not me being sarcastic.) I understand that you haven't had the official talk with the kids yet, and that is why he says he's doing things at your house. But how long are you going to let this happen, Fifi? Those kids have got to understand that they are sitting in the middle of a change minefield. Maybe the answer is to do this with your counselors? I don't know... but from my vantage point, this is more P/A behavior. Is he waiting for YOU to do the dirty?
Let me put this in perspective. Are you going to be able to let yourself in his apartment?
Even more important.. and this is for 2012sf as well. Do either of you have a separation agreement with your husbands? Because you are legally on the hook for all debts incurred by them. They can finance a new sports car and leave you with the bag without an agreement. So if you don't have one, you should get one. My XH and I did ours right after he moved out with a mediator, which is recognized by the courts.
Hopefully your C session helps.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey
