My wife finally came to her senses or so I thought. I had an employee commit suicide on Feb 3rd. That night I had to go in to deal with the aftermath. My wife looked me in the eye and said "I DO love you!"
After that day things were on the fast track to recovery. We started going on dates, she made a trip to Canada for work without incident with former OP...we were making progress in counseling, etc. She even told me that she was falling in love with me again!
Then about two weeks ago it all fell apart. She got down on us out of the blue and said that she has always had the underlying feeling of wanting to leave! Now she has opened her own bank accts, put money on an apartment and wants to sit the kids down and tell them we are separating!
I am totally crushed. I have been doing everything I can to keep the positive changes going. We were buying new furniture for the house, painting, doing fun things as a family, etc.
I don't know what went wrong! I can make up stories in my head but that is no good either. She swears there is no one else. She says she just can't heal from the wreckage of our past and that she feels broken.
She admits she loves me, she still shows affection, and says that she wishes that everything could be alright. She says that she can't see any other way to find peace within unless she leaves...
I guess it's time to stop playing her game and get on with life. I love her and want our marriage to remain intact for us and our children. I just don't know what to do. This is the worst...to make such seeming progress and have it all blow apart within a two week period.
There were no fights, everything seemed great on the surface and she just seemed to turn on a dime!
She is being treated for depression but I am concerned that she may be bi-polar. She thinks her therapist is qualified and would tell her if that is the case. I have suggested that her therapist is not qualified to do that and she should be getting checked for those issues by her psychiatrist rather than a psychologist.
Anyway, I am hurt, depressed, angry and confused. If anyone can help me find some way to understand or keep any kind of hope alive I could really use that right now.
H 36, W 35, M 15 S 11 D 7 Bomb 08/03/2011 2nd Bomb 01/04/2012 3rd Bomb 04/26/2012 Divorced 07/23/2012
