Needing some guidance... 2

[jks]

She is on a different squad than him, so they have somewhat different hours and don't respond to the same calls. So they most likely don't see each other at work unless they make it a point to see each other. Which they probably do every once in a while. She's trying to get on his same squad. She's been trying to for a long time. So that's pretty upsetting because if H decides to work things out with me, he'll most definitely have to quit his job.

He is so dedicated to his job and loves the people he works with so I know that would be a really hard thing for him to do.

She has a very masculine personality. (Obviously, if she's a cop.) She has no kids. She's very career driven. And most importantly, she sees nothing wrong with pursuing a married man with three kids. I know that she's been attracted to my H for a long time (at least a year of pursuing that I know of) and I think she could really see herself with him. Whereas my H never even looked at her that way until him and I separated. She makes me incredibly sick to think about her.

I asked my H a while ago that doesn't he think there's a reason why we chose to be with each other because we're so different? It makes things more interesting. But instead you'd rather be with someone who's exactly like you? He said, I don't know.