Look I am not saying you have to agree with her choice.
If you don't what can you do?
Really? Legally? Your W will probably have at least joint custody if it comes to that point.
Unless you can prove she is an unfit parent. regardless of what you or I think of her choice it is probably not going to be grounds for a court to say she can't have your daughter around OM unless, as I say, you prove it harmful.
Is it harmful?
F@ck yeah it is. I believe that MR. Everyone here would agree I think.
I am (and others) saying focus on what YOU control. A wise friend said here
"it is not your job to repair the relationship between your daughter and her mother, it is your job not to damage it."
Nickel Grace.
Even when you don't agree with her.
That is not passive it is making the right decision. Do you think your daughter is better in the long run with her Mother in her life?
What boundary would you place on this situation? What would be the consequence if she crosses it?
Your D needs to see you in control. Not trying to control her mother.
Think about when you first came here how you felt as an LBS and what your self esteem was like. What do you think is the source of your daughter's distress? She is only a child so think how she is processing these same emotions. Her mother left...
You have been there yourself haven't you? Helping her through those feelings is where I would put my energy if I were you.
Helping her understand that her mother's choices are not about her.
Is there a possibility of talking to her about some rules with your D? Offering to adhere to the same rules would be helpful.
If she feels you are being spiteful or controling I think you get a short two word answer from her and the first word starts with "f" and the second ends with "you"
Your anger won't serve you here MR. I man with strength controls it, a passive man let's it control him.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
