dueinMay
i think you've become the WAS.

you're focusing on all his negatives, so of course you're angry, frustrated, etc.

what other result would you expect?

focusing on the positives is not to let him off the hook, its not to reward his actions, its to keep yourself from being miserable.

and ultimately its to save your marriage. because the path you're on will end in divorce.

"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".