The thing is that your wife thinks you are very controlling. So be sure that when you talk to her, you do so in a very straight forward manner. That's why telling her that she can come along would help.
And remember to validate what she says.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.