Thank you, Sandi. I have been deeply appreciative of the help you have given me over the months.
Do you think I did the right thing in supporting her trip to see her family with S even though it extends beyond parameters established by the court? I was so difficult to type what I did when all I wanted to do was say "no!". It has really been the focal point of a lot of angst today. I feel it was the right thing to do, but at the same time I don't want to become a doormat.
Remember how one-sided I made the holidays for all of those years? Always with MY family? I am trying to make ammends to some degree and show her that I value her relationship with her family as well - hope that is a 180.
As noted earlier, I think that as long as we have mutually agreed to work on the relationship, my capacity to be flexible and give selflessly is pretty big. If, in her mind, she is 100% done I would most likely just play by the book that the court has given us. However, she has said that she is open to working on the relationship.....as noted, I am just wondering what that means or looks like to her or any other WAW for that matter.
I mean, does she call? Do I call her? Do we go do things together without our S? How will I know she is working on things? You can see even the slightest misinterpretation causes her to recoil (the incident yesterday about going up north).
How does a WAW "work on the relationship" especially after the D? What should I expect? Or should I expect nothing?
