I was the mother of controlling behavior. Sad thing was, I didn't realize I tried to control my family. Talk about having lessons to learn about life!

I don't want a divorce for you (just so we're clear). But I do hope you will learn that you can survive, even if it comes to that. Crimson, I've had to face a lot of things in life that I had no control over, and that prayer is the best way to deal with it. Don't be a slave to fear of what may happen.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!