The name of this site is "Divorce Busting". It is a place that people come to when their marriage is in serious trouble.
As Bond said, those that haven't experienced this have NO idea what it's like to go through it.
I had a few beliefs myself of what I would and wouldn't put up with before BD. Some of those things flew out the window when I was in the thick of this. With knowledge and support I've changed my thinking on a lot of things and have gotten new perspectives.
Most folks came here trying to save their M's. I dare say I've read nothing in Michele's principles that state trying to control another person as the only one you can control is yourself. In reading your previous posts and now your more recent ones, I don't think I've ever read anything about you looking in the mirror and owning your part in the breakdown of your M. If you did, I apologize for missing it.
Most people that come to these boards come here in hopes of reconciling their marriages. If that is your goal, going about it in the way you describe will do nothing to help you achieve that. If you no longer want to reconcile your M, that's OK too, your choice, but the first thing you need to be concerned with is your children and the way you conduct yourself while untangling from your W. They're watching and depending on you.
As Eric said, you're the sane, non batchit crazy parent. This one is on you.
