NRTS (Not Repairable at This Station)

[WenikiTiki]

The day didn't start out very well. STBX was headed out when I came down to let the dogs out. I was trying to miss seeing him, but the dogs were being silly. (Maybe because they didn't get fed 'til very late last night and all had to go!)

STBX said to me: "What are you planning on doing today?" And I said since it was my birthday I was going to finish my quilt. He seemed suprised it is my birthday. Of course he has never made a big deal out of birthdays, forgotten many and in general has never made any holiday a priority.

Mother's Day is another of my favorites...... He says the classic line: "You're not my mother." Well he never taught his kids to do anything about that, either. I have always gotten him a Father's Day card, made sure the kids did too and ALWAYS got him a gift. (And the only Mother's Day Cards and presents his mom ever got were purchased and sent by me.....)

This year I announced in front of my two sons and my DIL that being as I am their mother, and DIL is the mother of S27's children that I expected them to put their two heads together and figure out how we were going to celebrate this occasion! I told them they can leave their dad out of this plans but that DIL and I expected something to happen.

As to my birthday today, I'm headed out to Denny's for my free Birthday Grand Slam! I will work on my quilt all day, and then my friend has plans for us to go to Mongolian BBQ at Camp Smith tonight.

I'm feeling a little down, but once I get the quilt on the frame and the longarm going I will feel better. The quilt top got finished last night and it came out pretty good. It turned out with an amazing 3D effect. I love playing with my indigo dye and making fabric to make my quilts!

I also went to Macy's Monday and used up a gift card and a great coupon and got a new purse that ended up being 75% off! SO I got myself a gift!

I did tell off STBX yesterday, because as I was going over the pay statement for the lawyer stuff I did see where he did start an allotment to his account. He screwed around with the tax deductions trying to make the money come out the same. It hasn't been, and I had questioned him several times on this. He gave me BS answers.

I called him on the BS answers and explaimed to him that moving money and BS'ing about it is still telling a lie. And I also explained robbing Peter to Pay Paul. He just doesn't care. He is deep in the fog and not the man I married.

One of the things he said to me before was that the travel money was going into that account. Well I got travel money in our joint account and that is what got my attention. Anyway, he also said he was within his "Budget". Another unilateral decision on his part.

I explained to him that a budget is something people do together. He knows that as he handles billions of dollars in his job. I also told him that I'm not some shell game he can play with when it comes to money, unlike the way the government does it!

He gave me lots of whining about how he has to ask me for money, blah, blah, blah. He got mad when I pointed out he set up his own account, taking only $250 every two weeks out, but yet still asks me for his $40 a week lunch money.

Then he handed me several more lies about how he spent money on stuff for the house. I read the credit card bills. He uses a credit card everytime he buys paint or whatever. He also claims he used the money for going away lunches for people at work.

More lies, as he has asked me for more money several time recently just for that. It isn't much money, but it is money spent seeing OW and probably for buying her gifts. And it really is more about the lies!

So I am no longer going to worry about getting him his $40. He is going to have to figure this all out by himself. He had a bank account of his own, he has a debit card and a credit card. And he claims to have a budget.

Aloha All!

Wendy