"I know that when I say anything or put the slightest pressure on her she pulls back."

^^^^^^^^ Great insight. Let her know you're available and would be happy to go on dates, then let her schedule them.

She's the captain, you are the co-pilot right now. If you keep trying to grab the controls you will be fired!

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015