Hi GM, Just wanted to check in and see how you were doing.
Going to the attorney's office s very hard. I found it bittersweet. I hated going, but I found I felt better about myself in taking action and working towards my needs being taken care of through this legal process. That's what you're doing. You didn't want this, but yout H has put you in this position. Be realistic and plan strategically. Plan ahead when considering parenting plans and finances. Think about where you want to be financially 5 years down the road. Be fair, but be firm. This is where the law can be on your side. Because what H may feel is "fair" is only what's "fair" to him. Been there done that.
I got to the point where I switched my thinking to " Ok you want your divorce, you got it. But I will get what I need out of this divorce to".
I also learned that I really enjoy learning about marital law and how the legal system works and how attorney's interact with one another. Quite interesting.
And then a few weeks ago when I picked up the final copy of the divorce papers to look over before signing, I cried. I did. Then I signed them, and cried again. It's very sad, it just is.
Your last post to me really hit home. It's helped me to shift my thinking more into the here and now and future instead of still being so bogged down from what happened a year ago. And I thank you for your kind words of wisdom and input. I now realize Im having a hard time just letting go and letting life take it's place and be happy to just drift along. I realize why Im doing that now.
