Thank you all for your insights and opinions. You're all amazing.
Fig- great points. Oldtimer- thank you. Point taken! I definitely have work to do here. She as at least giving me the root of a major problem. It's now up to me to listen and try to correct it. Thanks
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done