Cadet-thanks for the advice about the size of my posts.
Received heartfelt email from H yesterday. He did not ask for divorce or separation but quite clearly said he thought our marriage was damaged beyond repair, was not willing to try to fix things and thinks we should agree to 'end this chapter of our relationship'.
Sent heartfelt reply back-reiterating commitment to him and marriage and my desire to reconcile. I also said, although it is not what I want, if he was not willing to try to reconcile, it is entirely his decision to end our marriage and I will need to focus on rebuilding my life without him. Said that, as he would be financially comfortable but I would struggle, it would only be fair if he signed the house over to me.